Self Help

Champion Thinking - How to Find Success Without Losing Yourself - Mundie Simon

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  • The book uses insights from sport to explore themes of joy, peace and fulfilment in life. It questions assumptions that winning and success guarantee happiness.

  • Sport can provide transcendent moments when thoughts drop away and one is absorbed in the present. The 2008 Federer-Nadal Wimbledon final is cited as an example.

  • While winning is important to athletes, the true beauty of sport is often found in the magic created together, not just results.

  • People enjoy playing sport for its own sake initially, not just to win. Yet coverage often focuses only on results rather than the experience.

  • The book examines eight universal themes highlighted in sport but overlooked, like the illusory nature of searching for future success to find fulfilment.

  • External rewards of success like fame and wealth don’t guarantee inner contentment. And being labeled “great” doesn’t fundamentally change who someone is.

  • The book argues victory is followed by dips, so what truly motivates athletes and drives them to constantly chase more?

The passage explores some of the lessons learned by elite athletes about finding true fulfillment. It discusses how our thinking can lead us astray if we don’t question our thoughts and mental stories.

It then tells the story of Will Carling, who captained the English rugby team in the late 1980s and early 1990s. As a young player, Carling didn’t believe he was good enough to play for England. However, he was unexpectedly chosen as captain at age 22.

Carling drew on his experiences training to be an army officer. He aimed to treat all players fairly rather than favoring some. His leadership style focused on honesty, fairness and bringing out the best in his teammates. Though initially unsure, Carling helped turn around England’s fortunes and unlock the team’s potential.

The passage uses Carling’s story to illustrate how cultivating understanding and belonging, rather than status or ego, can help athletes and teams thrive both on and off the field. It questions some myths around where fulfillment is found.

  • Will Carling captained England’s rugby team from 1987 to 1996 and led them to success, including Grand Slams in 1991, 1992 and 1995.

  • As captain, he became a popular and famous figure in England, helping to raise the profile of rugby. However, his leadership style and outspokenness also led some, especially in Scotland and Wales, to view him as arrogant.

  • In 1990, England narrowly lost to Scotland in the Five Nations decider that would have given them the Grand Slam. This loss hurt England’s performance for a while.

  • Carling faced controversy in 1995 when he criticized the Rugby Football Union committee and was briefly removed as captain, though reinstated.

  • By the mid-1990s, Carling’s stardom was such that he appeared on the popular TV show Noel’s House Party, showing how he had helped bring rugby into the mainstream.

  • While a successful leader, Carling’s celebrity spotlight and expectations to always win put great pressure on him as captain.

  • Will Carling was thrust into the spotlight as England rugby captain in the 1990s and became one of the first celebrity athletes. Both fans and critics formed strong opinions of him based largely on superficial impressions.

  • As an elite athlete from a public school background, some saw him as posh and arrogant. Others hailed him as “Captain Fantastic.” But these views were simplifications that didn’t reflect the full reality of the man.

  • Beneath his confident public persona, Carling was actually deeply sensitive. He had to develop a facade or “mask” as a coping mechanism after being sent away to boarding school at age six, where showing weakness was not allowed.

  • Over time he began to overly identify with this persona. But when the author met him decades later, the mask was gone and he seemed reflective and vulnerable.

  • Our tendency is to rush to judgements about well-known people based on their public image or status. But these are not facts - they tell us more about our own biases than the actual person. We should recognize how our minds conceptualize celebrities in shallow ways.

  • Both intense praise and criticism of public figures are often unfounded and prevent us from seeing them, and others, with more compassion and understanding as fellow human beings.

  • Will Carling’s rugby career ended after his 72nd appearance for England in the 1995 Five Nations tournament.

  • Around this time, his public reputation took a hit due to negative tabloid press coverage of his personal life, including the breakdown of his first marriage in 1996.

  • His planned testimonial match to honor his England career was cancelled due to lack of demand and negative press portraying him as a “pariah.”

  • Carling went through a difficult period where he felt publicly vilified and hid away in a flat with the blinds closed for a year.

  • He spent two years in psychoanalysis to work through relationship and personal issues. Childhood experiences of being sent away to boarding school at a young age had affected his ability to connect intimately.

  • Through therapy and his second marriage, Carling was able to reconnect with his vulnerability and find fulfillment in his family rather than past sporting successes, which he sees as relatively unimportant.

  • He learned not to define himself by others’ perceptions or successes, and believes quality relationships are more important than fame or achievements.

  • The passage describes the author’s childhood admiration of New Zealand rugby player John Kirwan from reading magazines, as satellite TV was not widely available.

  • Kirwan was a star player for New Zealand (“All Blacks”) in the 1987 Rugby World Cup, scoring 6 tries. He had a towering physical presence like cartoon character He-Man.

  • Despite his success, Kirwan suffered from anxiety and depression, which the author did not realize as a child viewing him as “superhuman”.

  • The author interviews Kirwan decades later. Kirwan reflects that his famous tries are not important to him now after dealing with mental health issues. He was internally shy and felt academically inadequate.

  • Kirwan’s drive came from a desire to prove doubters wrong, but this also took a toll. At the 1991 Rugby World Cup, he was taking antidepressants as his mental health had deteriorated severely.

  • On a tour just before, Kirwan had severe anxiety attacks and intrusive thoughts, even contemplating jumping from a hotel window. A teammate’s words saved his life and prompted Kirwan to seek help.

  • Despite his state, Kirwan played well in the next match but was mentally unwell. He reached out for help upon returning home to New Zealand.

  • John Kirwan struggled with anxiety and depression for many years. He feared being institutionalized like in One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.

  • When his doctor reassured him that nothing was fundamentally wrong and it was treatable, it was a huge relief for Kirwan to not feel alone.

  • His mother urged him to “start smelling the roses” which prompted him to find small joyful moments like enjoying a hot shower.

  • Kirwan tried various ways to relax his mind like meditation, cooking, swimming, surfing, etc. Finding activities that helped him disengage from repetitive thoughts.

  • He developed a “daily mental health plan” including ensuring he takes breaks to relax his overstimulated brain several times a day and having things to look forward to.

  • Kirwan came out publicly about his struggles to help educate others through the Like Minds, Like Mine campaign. He was initially terrified but it helped many people and he has been knighted for his mental health advocacy work.

  • He recognizes that basing his self-worth only on rugby led to issues, and now strives to be more imperfect and balanced in how he views himself.

  • Sir John Kirwan struggled most with his own thoughts and mental distress, rather than other people’s judgments of him.

  • Both he and others came to realize that thoughts are ephemeral and often misleading. Neither other people’s thoughts nor one’s own thoughts truly define who a person is.

  • Relaxing one’s need to feel in control is important, as we have little actual control over our lives. Lives are shaped by many arbitrary and interconnected events and circumstances outside of our control, like the families and times we are born into.

  • While we may plan our futures, unexpected challenges and life events will invariably occur that we cannot predict or control. Difficult moments sometimes catalyze personal growth and evolution in unpredictable ways.

  • The man, McAvoy, spent time in prison where he began exercising intensely as a way to cope and feel in control of his mind and body. He did over 1000 reps of various exercises every day.

  • When released, he returned to criminal activities but had gained some notoriety and status in that world for his defiance in prison.

  • He was eventually arrested again for an armed robbery attempt and sentenced to life in prison, with no guarantee of release.

  • In prison, he initially had no intention of rehabilitating but everything changed when he saw news of his best friend dying during a robbery gone wrong. This made him realize the destructive path he was on.

  • He started dedicating significant time to rowing on a prison machine to separate himself from criminal influences. He broke multiple indoor rowing world records which uncovered his natural athletic talent.

  • With the help of a prison guard, he set his sights on becoming a professional rower if released. After 10 years, he was able to convince the parole board he had changed.

  • Upon release, he joined a rowing club and his athletic career took off, though he initially hid his criminal past from club members until opening up in a blog post.

  • Scott McAvoy was sentenced to 10 years in prison for organized crime. While in prison, he discovered a talent and passion for rowing.

  • After releasing from prison, he wrote a blog about his redemption story which gained attention. One influential Nike executive happened to read about McAvoy and told Nike to sign him.

  • McAvoy realized sporting success and breaking records alone would not create a true legacy. By sharing his story and mentoring young people, he could have a greater positive impact.

  • He now works with a charity called Greenhouse Sports to mentor underprivileged youth through sport. His story shows how unexpected paths and serendipitous events can change lives, and how focusing on impacting others is a more meaningful way to create a legacy than individual victories or glory. It’s a reminder of the importance of compassion and not judging others without understanding their full circumstances.

John McAvoy had a troubled past involving crime, but going to prison was a catalyst for change. He discovered a passion for sports in jail. While difficult, this experience ultimately helped turn his life around.

Henry Fraser was a promising young rugby player until a diving accident left him paralyzed from the shoulders down at age 17. After months in the hospital facing immense physical and emotional suffering, a moment of clarity came for him at 3 AM one night. Seeing his frail reflection in the hospital, he finally accepted his new reality and disability after crying for 12 hours straight. This marked a turning point where he chose to focus on rehabilitation rather than anger or regret. Though an incredibly challenging process, Fraser believes that moment of breaking down was necessary for him to ultimately move forward in a positive direction. His story shows how even tragedy can potentially bring gifts through greater self-awareness and perspective.

Fraser was left bedbound and bored, when he discovered an art app that let him draw using a stylus in his mouth. He had enjoyed art as a child but his disability had prevented him from fully exploring it.

When trying the app, he found he had a gift and enjoyed honing his skills. Over time he got better at letting go of perfectionism and enjoying the process. He began painting wildlife and self-portraits using only his mouth. His artwork became quite successful.

Painting provided Fraser with a “comfort zone” where time would pass quickly. It allowed him to relax and replenish himself. Previously he had social anxiety, but after his accident he began public speaking, which also gave him satisfaction despite initial nerves.

He was inspired by advice that talks should focus on the audience, not himself. His artwork, speaking and embracing his situation have made Fraser happier than before his accident. He serves as an inspiration for accepting challenges and finding joy.

The passage discusses aspects of the story of Team GB women’s hockey team that led to their gold medal win at the 2016 Rio Olympics. It particularly notes their emphasis on a collective “we” over individual interests (“me”).

Key points:

  • The team rose from humble origins when the sport was struggling in the UK to reach the top.

  • Individual players like Kate Richardson-Walsh and Helen Richardson (who later married) overcame injuries and setbacks to achieve success.

  • The team embraced a vision of “we not me”, prioritizing the collective good over any individual goals. Their concept of “we” included not just the Olympic team but also past/future players and supporters.

  • This focus on something greater than oneself exemplifies Abraham Maslow’s view that the highest form of self-actualization comes from contributing to a purpose larger than one’s self or transcendence.

  • The team’s emphasis on a collective “we” over individualism is particularly notable and prescient according to the passage. It speaks to the power of serving a cause bigger than oneself.

  • London was awarded the 2012 Olympics, which saved the British field hockey program after their funding was cut due to failing to qualify for the 2004 Athens Olympics.

  • The British team qualified for the 2008 Beijing Olympics and finished 6th, higher than their world ranking at the time. However, many players found the experience under coach Danny Kerry unenjoyable.

  • Kerry was highly committed but lacking in emotional intelligence as a coach. He took a tactical, outcome-focused approach that focused on his own knowledge rather than connecting with players.

  • After Beijing, Kerry received direct feedback from players critical of his leadership style. This was a difficult experience but motivated Kerry to develop his emotional intelligence and leadership skills.

  • Traumatic childhood experiences had led Kerry to internalize his emotions. Under Beijing’s stress, this detached coaching style resurfaced. Accepting feedback helped Kerry recognize how his behavior impacted others.

  • Developing self-awareness, empathy, relationship skills and emotional management are key aspects of emotional intelligence that Kerry worked to improve in his coaching over the next eight years.

  • After the disappointing Beijing Olympics, Danny Kerry recognized the need for cultural change in the British hockey team to improve performance. This required relinquishing some control and giving players more ownership.

  • Key to this was the introduction of “Thinking Thursday” sessions to challenge players mentally and physically in chaotic situations similar to the Olympics. Rules would change without warning to simulate unpredictable games.

  • This helped develop players’ autonomy, competence, bonds and intrinsic motivation as they had to problem-solve together without direct coaching. It was mentally and physically exhausting.

-players became more vulnerable with each other, sharing personal issues. This built trust and caring between teammates. Understanding each other’s stresses made them supportive of struggles and able to draw on each other’s strengths.

  • Through this process, Kerry and the team embraced authenticity, acceptance and letting go of perceptions to become more cohesive. It prepared them to make good decisions when depleted at the chaotic Olympics.

The passage describes the journey of the Great Britain women’s hockey team leading up to and including the 2012 London Olympics. It discusses how centralizing the training helped build unity among players from different home nations.

In 2010, the team set an ambitious goal of winning gold at the London Games. This required difficult conversations as some players feared failure. Over the next two years, results improved and team culture strengthened as the players bonded.

At London 2012, the team exceeded expectations by winning bronze despite injuries to their captain. This success boosted funding and participation for the sport. However, after changes in leadership and tactics post-Games, the unified culture broke down. Divisions emerged and results suffered, climaxing in a poor showing at the 2014 World Cup where individualism replaced teamwork. Leadership changes were needed to rebuild the team dynamic.

  • In late 2014, after underperforming at the World Cup, the GB women’s hockey team held a “no holds barred” meeting to address tensions within the team. A psychologist helped create a safe space for players to air grievances.

  • The meeting was difficult but necessary. Players took responsibility for their roles in the issues and gained understanding of others’ perspectives.

  • In early 2015, the team focused on rebuilding trust and connections. They created a new vision for themselves ahead of the 2016 Rio Olympics.

  • Questions like “How do you want to be remembered?” helped shape the vision. Players wanted to inspire future generations like past teams had inspired them.

  • The vision emphasized being process-focused in the present rather than just outcome-focused on medals. It was about producing their best daily and holding each other accountable to high standards of conduct.

  • The “no holds barred” meeting and new visioning process helped the team transition from a goal of “having to win gold” to a focus on “being the kind of team they wanted to be,” on and off the field.

The British women’s hockey team adopted a mantra of “Be the difference. Create history. Inspire the future” for the 2016 Rio Olympics, rather than setting a specific medal goal. This vision was about exemplifying positive values and leaving a lasting impact, rather than just achieving an outcome.

The team demonstrated selflessness and unity throughout the tournament. They skipped the opening ceremony to focus on their first match. Players agreed to ban social media for the competition. In tense games, injured players returned to help despite needing medical attention.

In the gold medal final against top-ranked Netherlands, the teams were tied at full time. In a dramatic penalty shootout, British goalkeeper Maddie Hinch saved all shots while her teammates scored, crowning them Olympic champions. Captain Kate Richardson-Walsh cried receiving the gold, acknowledging those who came before them.

Despite the achievement, the team consistently deflected praise to the whole squad and support system rather than individuals. Their vision of “being the difference” extended beyond themselves to inspiring women’s sports going forward.

  • Jonny Wilkinson had an illustrious rugby career but also struggled with injuries, anxiety, depression and perfectionism.

  • He grew up playing rugby from a young age and his perfectionist tendencies emerged around age 6-7, putting immense pressure on himself.

  • Wilkinson made his England debut at age 18 and had an early international baptism by fire, including England’s worst ever defeat to Australia.

  • He suffered tremendously physically from his playing style and obsessive training. Injuries sidelined him for years and exacerbated his mental health struggles.

  • Through his suffering, Wilkinson went on a philosophical journey of self-inquiry. He embraced acceptance, which helped him cope with challenges and provided fulfillment beyond sport.

  • His humility, commitment and leadership made him a beloved player for England fans. His post-career focus has been on probiotic wellness products reflecting his interests in health.

The key aspects summarized are Wilkinson’s sporting career highlights and struggles, his philosophical growth through acceptance, and how suffering ultimately led him to answers beyond the game.

  • Jonny Wilkinson struggled with insomnia and obsessive training habits after England’s poor touring performances in Australia in 1998. He was devastated by the defeats and humiliation on the rugby pitch.

  • The author also struggled with insomnia in his early 20s and used excessive exercise, alcohol, and eventually sleeping pills to try to fix the problem. His insomnia worsened when he had to get up early for a radio job.

  • He had a life-changing session with Dr. Guy Meadows, who taught him about the difference between the “thinking mind” and the “aware mind.” The aware mind simply observes thoughts and feelings without judgment, whereas the thinking mind gets caught up in trying to fix or change them.

  • Learning to settle into an awareness of his thoughts and feelings, without resistance, took the sting out of the author’s insomnia. He stopped battling his internal state and learned to trust and get in sync with his body’s natural rhythms again. Acceptance allowed his anxiety and insomnia to unwind on their own.

  • Both Wilkinson and the author learned the importance of working with the body rather than against it when it comes to things like sleep, by accepting thoughts/feelings rather than fighting them.

  • Acceptance means fully allowing uncomfortable thoughts and feelings to be present without any agenda to get rid of them. True acceptance will allow the thoughts and feelings to naturally dissipate over time.

  • Awareness always allows whatever is happening without resistance, while the thinking mind resists experiences it doesn’t like.

  • Resisting or trying to get rid of unpleasant feelings like anxiety actually perpetuates them. Accepting the feelings without judgment of them as “bad” can help them transform or dissipate.

  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps develop psychological flexibility through acceptance. It involves contacting the present moment through awareness rather than thinking, observing thoughts without identification with them, focusing on the present through senses, and seeing self as context rather than content of experiences.

  • Professor Steven Hayes, who developed ACT, found acceptance helped free him from debilitating panic attacks by ending the struggle with inner experiences and allowing them fully. The six steps of ACT outlined help cultivate acceptance.

  • The passage discusses Jonny Wilkinson’s struggle with psychological suffering and anxiety during his playing career with England rugby. He felt immense pressure to perform as one of the world’s best players.

  • Between matches, Wilkinson often felt stressed and worried about potential mistakes or things going wrong. He took his identity very seriously as an important player, which added to the pressure.

  • However, when playing during matches, the psychological stress would disappear. He was fully present in the moment without self-referential thoughts.

  • Over time, Wilkinson realized his identity and story of being an important player was actually the source of much of his suffering. Taking his self-concept too seriously trapped him in mental anguish.

  • In 2003, Wilkinson and England had their most successful year, winning the Six Nations Grand Slam and touring victories in New Zealand and Australia. Wilkinson attributes this to being more present and less caught up in thoughts of identity during matches.

  • The passage discusses how presence and acceptance, rather than identification with thoughts, allowed Wilkinson to perform at his peak on the field and escape the psychological prison of self-concept he had unintentionally created.

  • England struggled in the early stages of the Rugby World Cup, barely beating Samoa and trailing Wales in the quarterfinals.

  • In the semifinals against France, Jonny Wilkinson’s accurate kicking in the rainy conditions helped England win.

  • In the final against Australia in Sydney, the game went to extra time tied at 14-14. Elton Flatley kicked penalties to tie it up late in normal time and again in extra time.

  • With seconds left, Wilkinson calmly kicked the winning drop goal to give England the title. This transcendent moment opened his perspective on the illusion of ego/self.

  • Acceptance and letting go of resistance is key to performing without pressure. Wilkinson explained how fully engaging in the moment without getting caught up in thoughts allowed his training to take over for the kick.

  • Not identifying with or personalizing uncomfortable thoughts is crucial to welcoming pressure instead of feeling debilitated by it. This understanding helps in challenging situations both on and off the field.

  • Jonny Wilkinson achieved his career goals of becoming the best rugby player in the world and winning the Rugby World Cup at a young age, but found he still felt empty afterwards. Achieving goals and success does not necessarily lead to lasting fulfillment.

  • Society conditions people to believe fulfillment will come after achieving certain milestones like career success, wealth, retirement. But people often realize too late that they spent their lives focused on the future instead of living in the present.

  • Athletes are also focused on constantly achieving more and proving themselves, always chasing the horizon but never truly arriving. Once Wilkinson achieved his goals, he had to confront feeling empty and find fulfillment from within instead of external achievements.

  • Constant goal-setting and striving can be ingrained but also causes worry about outcomes not going as planned, instead of fully enjoying the present. Achievements may leave people satisfied briefly but not necessarily fulfilled in a lasting way.

Here are the key points I’d like to make in response:

  1. I can validate from my own experience that achievements often provide only fleeting satisfaction and happiness. Accomplishing goals usually sparks an initial sense of joy, pride or relief, but that feeling is often temporary. The inner urge to continue pursuing fulfillment through new goals tends to return fairly quickly.

  2. While achievements may not guarantee lasting well-being, pursuing our potential out of love rather than fear can help. When the motivation comes from a place of exploration, learning and contribution rather than inadequacy, it may sustain us through challenges and disappointments. A growth mindset focused on intrinsic rewards could help prevent an endless chasing of “more.”

  3. Lasting fulfillment is about more than any external goal or achievement. It stems from finding meaning, being present, cultivating self-acceptance, and building genuine connections with others. While goals can be motivating, true happiness endures through actively appreciating life as it happens - both the successes and failures - instead of constantly seeking what’s next after each win.

In conclusion, I agree based on my own journey that achievement often leaves one feeling momentarily content but urgently wanting more. However, approaching life’s pursuits with love rather than fear can help sustain well-being in a way that is less contingent on any particular outcome or accomplishment. Lasting happiness depends more on mindset and life approach than any single win or goal.

  • Caitlyn Jenner touched on her difficult childhood, including struggling with undiagnosed dyslexia in school and feeling like a woman trapped in a man’s body from a young age.

  • She found her confidence through athletics after excelling in a school running race at age 10. Sports became her focus and way to achieve praise and approval.

  • She speculated that if not for her early challenges, she may not have been as driven to succeed athletically. Research supports that experiencing adversity as a child can spur success.

  • Jenner went on to become a champion in multiple sports before focusing on the decathlon. She trained intensely for four years to win gold in the 1976 Montreal Olympics, setting a world record in the process.

  • Her iconic victory lap waving the American flag cemented her fame and proved to be a pivotal moment in her journey of self-discovery and transition later in life. Her early difficulties played a key role in fueling her remarkable athletic achievements.

  • Caitlyn Jenner’s gold medal victory at the 1976 Olympics was a seminal moment that captured the American spirit. Waving the American flag in celebration started a new tradition.

  • However, Jenner felt uneasy the next day as she realized the pressure and expectations that now came with fame and being a household name.

  • Jenner embraced her new celebrity status in the following years through endorsements and appearances. But by the mid-1980s, she began to feel she didn’t fit in and started seeing a therapist about gender dysphoria.

  • Jenner’s intense Olympic training was in part an avoidance of deeper internal issues regarding her gender identity. While it led to success, the issues reemerged after.

  • Jenner eventually transitioned in 2015, changing her name to Caitlyn. Her story shows how pursuing goals can be a form of avoidance and how underlying discomfort returns once goals are achieved.

  • Lucy Gossage similarly used academics and later sports to avoid facing a limiting belief from finishing last in a school race. Reflecting on unconscious beliefs can help overcome limitations.

  • Lucy Gossage signed up for her first Ironman triathlon on a whim after meeting someone who had done one. She doubted her ability to complete it but finished strongly in over 11 hours.

  • She got more into triathlon training and joined clubs in Nottingham and Cambridge. The Cambridge club had a more serious atmosphere which motivated her.

  • At the club she met Helen Davis, a primary school teacher feeling disillusioned with her job. Davis noticed Gossage underestimating her swimming abilities.

  • Davis was inspired to pursue a master’s in sport psychology. She faced doubts as a mother in her 40s but was encouraged by Gossage and others to take the chance.

  • Davis juggled the master’s with teaching and family. Getting feedback on her first assignments was scary but she succeeded. Her friendship with Gossage helped both challenge self-limiting beliefs and make career changes nudging them in new directions through sport.

  • Lucy Gossage originally believed her mind was her strongest asset due to her strong work ethic and motivation. However, she often doubted her abilities as a swimmer and athlete.

  • While studying for her master’s in sports psychology, Gossage began working with Helen Davis, who was just starting out as a sports psychologist. Their initial sessions went well and helped Gossage recognize her tendency to engage in “put-down thinking” and doubt her accomplishments.

  • Davis helped Gossage realize that many of her self-limiting beliefs, like believing negative outcomes were flukes rather than acknowledging her abilities, were actually irrational. This was an important insight for Gossage to overcome barriers holding her back.

  • Davis’s work with Gossage using Rational Emotional Behavioral Therapy helped Gossage understand how activating events don’t directly cause emotional consequences, but one’s beliefs about the events do. This recognition helped Gossage address her limiting self-beliefs.

  • Ellis, who developed REBT, emphasized avoiding “musterbation” - irrational beliefs like thinking “I must do well” and that failure is a reflection of one’s self-worth. Davis helps athletes recognize and disentangle themselves from such unhelpful thinking patterns.

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  • Lucy Gossage is a doctor who also competed as an elite triathlete. She worked with coach Helen Davis to identify and challenge her limiting beliefs.

  • Gossage had success in triathlon but would attribute it to luck rather than her own skill and hard work. Davis helped her pay attention to language that revealed underlying limiting thoughts like “I must” or “I have to.”

  • In 2016 Gossage faced several setbacks before big races like injuries and a breakup, but was able to perform well through challenging her limiting beliefs with Davis. This showed her she could achieve more than she thought.

  • Her best ever performance at the Ironman World Championships in 2016 came after breaking her collarbone just weeks before. This experience led her to continue competing part-time after returning to medicine.

  • Gossage realized she no longer needed to climb the “career ladder” and could focus on fulfilling work rather than prestige. She now works part-time in oncology to have more balance.

The summary captures the key details about how Gossage worked with her coach Davis to overcome limiting beliefs through language analysis, which helped her achieve more success in triathlon and re-evaluate her career goals and priorities.

  • Lucy Gossage was helped by listening to a podcast episode with Ed Jackson, an ex-rugby player turned charity fundraiser who broke his neck diving into a pool.

  • Jackson shared a formula he uses to decide how to spend his time based on weighing factors like time commitment, intrinsic value, and pay. This resonated with Gossage.

  • In 2018, inspired by Jackson, Gossage set up the 5k Your Way charity with Gemma Hillier-Moses to encourage cancer patients and their families to exercise.

  • Gossage overcame her fear of failure, which stemmed from pressure to succeed as an athlete. This allowed her to focus on enjoying life and helping others through the charity.

  • The charity has grown significantly, helping over 1,500 members across the UK and Ireland. Gossage was nominated for an award for her work.

  • Questioning her limiting beliefs through work with Helen Davis was important for Gossage to reflect on what she wanted and create the charity. Her story shows the value of examining guiding narratives.

  • Gael Monfils and Andy Murray both showed early promise as junior players, with Monfils winning several junior Grand Slams in 2004.

  • Murray made his professional debut in 2005 but struggled with physical frailty and cramping, while Monfils had more consistent early success and was named ATP newcomer of the year.

  • Murray worked tirelessly to improve his fitness and physicality. A turning point came in beating Richard Gasquet at Wimbledon 2008 while overcoming cramps, showing his transformed physical conditioning.

  • Murray went on to have immense success, winning 3 Grand Slams and Olympic gold, while Monfils reached a career high of #6 but did not fulfill his potential in terms of major titles.

  • Murray exemplified a “growth mindset” through his willingness to take on challenges and improve even in the face of setbacks, transforming his career through diligent work, according to Carol Dweck’s research on mindsets.

  • Andy Murray worked hard to improve his physical strength and game, transforming himself into one of the fittest players. He tweaked his forehand to be more offensive and adapted his tactics to dictate play more.

  • Hiring Ivan Lendl as a coach helped Murray be more aggressive from the baseline and calm his on-court emotions. Under Lendl, Murray started winning Grand Slam titles, including ending Britain’s 77-year wait for a Wimbledon men’s singles champion.

  • While Murray showed a growth mindset by continuously seeking improvement, the idea that directly cultivating a growth mindset leads to success has been questioned. Professor Timothy Bates was unable to replicate the original research showing a link between mindset and achievement.

  • Bates found that praising effort over talent, or using words like “yet”, did not actually impact outcomes as suggested. Simply changing beliefs may not translate to real improvement. The ability to control others’ thoughts is limited. Consistent effort may be a better message than focusing on mindset alone.

  • The growth mindset idea that champions were born different and made themselves extraordinary overlooks the role of circumstances outside one’s control. Andy Murray’s competitive drive was shaped by traumatic childhood events like the Dunblane massacre.

  • Personality traits also play a big role. Murray likely has high conscientiousness which predicts persistence and goal achievement. However, he is not very extraverted unlike Gaël Monfils, who prioritizes enjoyment.

  • It’s unrealistic to think Monfils could have Murray’s success just by changing his mindset, as their personalities differ. Maximizing one’s potential is a better definition of success than achievements alone.

  • Focusing solely on career achievement could limit potential in other life areas like relationships and health. Murray’s dedication to tennis success may have hastened his hip problems. Success is multi-dimensional and defined by more than just achievements or mindset.

  • In 2023, Murray had a remarkable comeback at the Australian Open, winning two five-set matches and beating a top 20 player for the first time since 2017, though he ultimately lost in the third round.

  • Murray underwent hip resurfacing surgery in 2018 inspired by American doubles player Bob Bryan, who had similar surgery and returned to high-level play. Doubles puts less stress on the hip than singles.

  • Bryan said after watching Murray in 2023 that those concerned about Murray likely worry about how long his hip implant will last.

  • Murray’s surgeon had warned him he had a 15% chance of destroying his hip within 7 years if he returned to elite tennis. Any further damage could restrict him later in life, but it’s too early to know outcomes.

  • Murray’s comeback showed extraordinary perseverance and dedication to his sport, but also came with long-term health risks that were not yet clear given it had only been a few years since his surgery.

The passage explores what gives us a sense of personal identity and continuity over time, even as our thoughts, feelings, perceptions, etc. are constantly changing. It argues that our essential identity is awareness itself - the fact of being conscious and aware. While the contents of our experience come and go, awareness remains as the constant background.

It discusses how we often confuse our conceptual self with this awareness. We identify strongly with our thoughts, feelings and experiences, which causes suffering when they change. But at a deeper level, our true self is the awareness in which all experiences arise and pass away.

The passage uses examples from athletic careers to illustrate how identifying too strongly with one’s conceptual self, such as their identity as an athlete, can cause suffering when that role changes. But at the level of pure awareness, nothing is truly gained or lost - awareness remains unchanged, observing the ups and downs of experiences throughout life.

Letting go of grasping onto transient thoughts, feelings and experiences, and recognizing our true nature as the unchanging awareness that underlies it all, can lead to greater peace and happiness that is not dependent on outer circumstances. This is the key insight explored in the passage.

While Sayers was developing as an athlete, there was less emphasis on health and safety regulations compared to today. She had the freedom to train on her own, throwing javelins in fields near her home just for the enjoyment of it. This informal training was invaluable in helping her become a world-class athlete.

By the 2008 Beijing Olympics, Sayers had over a decade of experience. In a chaotic final under wet and windy conditions, she had just one throw to count due to impending rain. During those crucial few seconds, she entered a state of “flow” - being completely absorbed in the moment without internal thoughts. This effortless state allowed her to produce her career-best throw, securing 4th place.

The experience had a spiritual quality for Sayers of being fully present and aware of her body’s movements without thinking. Achieving flow is about seeking this effortless and optimal state of performance. It is a familiar yet elusive experience of being so engaged that time disappears. Many top athletes recount experiences of flow as formative in their careers.

  • The passage discusses experiences of “flow” or being fully immersed and present in an activity where the sense of self disappears. It provides examples of athletes like Damon Hill and Jonny Wilkinson describing such experiences during important competitions.

  • Hill describes feeling “unlocked” and like he was “not driving the car” during a pivotal Formula 1 race where he achieved his best performance. Wilkinson said it “wasn’t me kicking” the winning World Cup goal.

  • Both acknowledged experiencing a sense of surrender and “letting go” which allowed their skills to operate at the highest level. This illustrates how dissolving the sense of separate self can unleash greater ability.

  • The passage then contrasts the popular view that winning is all-important in sport with the idea that the real joy is found in being fully present and losing oneself in the activity.

  • It provides the example of Goldie Sayers, a British javelin thrower who injured herself before the 2012 Olympics just as she was peaking, preventing her from competing at her best and ending her medal hopes.

  • British javelin thrower Goldie Sayers fell short of medaling at the 2012 London Olympics due to an elbow injury, managing just three painful throws.

  • In 2016, she found out she would be awarded an Olympic bronze medal from 2008 after the original silver medalist, Mariya Abakumova, was disqualified for doping. Sayers received her medal in 2019 at the London Olympic Stadium.

  • Though winning medals was her long-time dream, Sayers questioned if trophies and medals truly satisfy athletes in the end. Other moments, like feeling “in the zone” or flow, provided more intrinsic rewards.

  • Sayers’ best memories came from simply enjoying throwing the javelin perfectly, a rare and sublime feeling when all elements sync up. Elite athletes seek this flow state where they lose self-awareness.

  • Flow states can transform one’s experience of time and are found not just in sports but other pursuits like art or conversation. The true joys of sport may lie more in intrinsically rewarding moments of flow than external trophies.

  • The interview discusses the concept of time and the experience of being “in flow”. Rupert Spira advises living as if time doesn’t exist and not dwelling in thoughts about the past or future.

  • Being “in flow” involves a loss of ego or sense of self. Athletes often miss this feeling after retiring. Winning trophies is not really the motivating factor - it’s the experience of flow itself and loss of self that people find enjoyable.

  • Choking or diminished performance occurs when athletes are more self-conscious or worried about their self-image and reputation. Higher status players are more prone to choking.

  • Performance is best when the self-concept drops away. Deep down, we want our sense of being a separate self to be absent, as that is when we experience the most enjoyment. Living in the present moment rather than being lost in thought helps reduce suffering and bring more peace.

  • The prevailing view is that achieving success, fame or celebrity makes you special and deserving of extra praise and treatment. However, experience shows the opposite - we are happiest when our sense of self drops away rather than being celebrated.

  • When athletes buy into the idea that their success makes them special, it can be dangerous. The greatest athletes access true inspiration in the moment rather than relying on past experiences.

  • Someone like Roger Federer produced shots that seemed otherworldly due to being in “flow” and tapping into inspiration beyond thinking. However, this didn’t inflate his ego.

  • The story of Emma Raducanu illustrates this point. She felt most alive and at peace in the moment of winning the US Open without thinking, not when her status elevated and people had opinions. Struggled with attaching self-worth to achievements after.

  • We are happiest when our sense of self dissolves and we are aligned with the present moment without resistance, not when our ego or self-concept is celebrated and enhanced. Realizing we are not our thoughts can significantly reduce suffering.

  • The passage discusses how people often confuse their sense of identity or self-worth with their thoughts, abilities, and achievements. However, thoughts are fleeting and prone to change, so they do not define who someone truly is.

  • It argues that lasting happiness, fulfillment and peace of mind come from recognizing one’s innate wholeness and self-worth, rather than seeking validation through external accomplishments. When we are defined by our talents or what others think, we risk experiencing fluctuations in our sense of self based on successes or failures.

  • Some key examples given are athlete Jonny Wilkinson struggling due to identifying with thoughts about past/future, and Caitlyn Jenner realizing achievement did not equate to lasting joy.

  • The passage advocates observing thoughts as ephemeral phenomena rather than facts, and recognizing our essential identity is the awareness behind thoughts, not the content of thinking. This can help transcend limiting beliefs and experience the peace that is inherent in simply being, not in what we achieve.

In summary, it discusses how separating one’s sense of self from the content of thinking leads to greater happiness, fulfillment and equanimity than basing self-worth on external factors like accomplishments or the perceptions of others. The key is recognizing our essence is the awareness behind thought.

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