Self Help

Extreme You Step Up. Stand Out. Kick Ass. Repeat. - Sarah Robb O'Hagan

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  1. Extreme You is about embracing your unique and distinctive strengths and personality to achieve more success. It is not about being reckless or overbearing.

  2. Early failures and obstacles can ignite a hunger and drive that fuel later success, if you learn to develop and refine your strengths.

  3. You must discover your own unique mix of Extreme skills and interests by Checking Yourself Out.

  4. You need to Ignite Your Magic Drive to develop the confidence and stamina to power through challenges.

  5. Sometimes you need to Get Out of Line and assert your strengths even when others don’t appreciate them.

  6. You also need to Get Over Yourself and avoid letting your strengths become liabilities.

  7. Pain Training - learning from failures - can become an important teacher guiding you to future success.

  8. Support from others is essential for Extreme success, not just individual effort. The author draws lessons on team building from great brands and organizations.

  9. Personal branding is less about attracting followers and more about knowing who you are and what you stand for.

In summary, the key to Extreme You is embracing your distinctive strengths, while also developing the drive, outlook, and support necessary to leverage those strengths successfully. This requires self-knowledge, confidence, and knowing when and how assertively to express your strengths.

  1. Sam Kass discovered his passion for cooking and his talent for being a chef almost by accident. He started out wanting to be a baseball player but then got the chance to work in a Michelin-starred restaurant kitchen in Vienna and realized he enjoyed and excelled at it.

  2. What helped Sam discover his Extreme Chef self was following his curiosity, taking opportunities that spoke to him, and working hard at them. He tried on the chef’s apron even though he hadn’t initially intended to become a chef.

  3. Checking himself out - examining who he was and what skills and abilities he had - revealed that he fit into the fast-paced, team-oriented environment of a restaurant kitchen and enjoyed the challenge of gourmet cooking. This self-assessment helped him realize he could make a career out of being a chef.

  4. The key for living Extreme You, the author argues, is to know what that looks like for you personally. But like Sam, most people don’t immediately realize their Extreme Selves - they have to discover it through following opportunities, working hard, and then checking in with themselves to assess their true strengths, skills and passions.

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The author suggests that checking yourself out can reveal skills and talents you didn’t know you had. This happened for her when she organized a charity ball at age 21. Despite not considering herself a future business leader, she discovered she had organizational and leadership abilities.

She cites the example of Angela Ahrendts, who achieved great success as the CEO of Burberry and an executive at Apple, yet initially thought she “wasn’t smart.” Checking herself out in fashion unlocked her creative side and allowed her to broaden her skills over time.

Angela recommends finding what you love to do and being in the “lane” that best fits your natural wiring. If you do that and work hard, you can achieve great success. Checking yourself out is what allows you to take advantage of opportunities.

The author argues that checking yourself out is not a one-time thing but a recurring process that can help opportunities present themselves when you’re open to new experiences.

The key takeaways are:

  1. Checking yourself out can reveal hidden skills and talents.
  2. Success comes from playing to your strengths and natural wiring.
  3. Checking yourself out is an ongoing, cyclical process that can help create opportunities.
  4. Being open to new experiences helps you discover your Extreme skills and abilities.

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The passage discusses the importance of regularly checking yourself out through exploration, experimentation, and self-reflection. This process can be unplanned or deliberate, simple or complex.

The story of Sam, the White House chef, is used as an example. Through his experiences traveling and working as a private chef, reading political books, and cooking for political families, Sam developed skills and interests that led to him becoming a key policymaker on health and nutrition.

Checking yourself out often involves discomfort, ambiguity, and self-doubt. The story of Will Dean, the founder of Tough Mudder obstacle courses, illustrates this. Through leaving a job he did not fit into and attending business school, Will discovered what kind of business and culture he wanted to create. It was an imperfect, painful process that involved lots of introspection. The passage likens checking yourself out to a “random walk” - the winding path ultimately leads to the destination.

The key takeaway is that regularly checking yourself out through exploration and self-reflection is important for growth and finding the right path for you, even if it’s difficult and unpredictable at times. You have to be willing to take the “random walk.”

In summary, the passage advocates for regularly checking yourself out through experience and reflection as a way to gain clarity, develop skills and interests, and ultimately find your right path, even if the process is hard, uncomfortable and uncertain at times.

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The author describes checking yourself out as a way to discover and develop your “extreme self” through new experiences. They argue that this is an ongoing process throughout life as priorities change.

The author recommends getting involved in different activities to see what sticks, even if you can’t predict the outcome. This helps you identify what gives you energy and what your talents are. They caution against just doing things for resume padding.

The author shares two key steps in checking yourself out:

  1. Get In on the Action - Try new things, in your imagination and in reality. This will reveal what excites you and what you’re good at. Even unplanned experiences can point you in a new direction.

  2. Be Ready to Catch the Ball - Be open to whatever experiences come your way. Some may lead to specific goals, while others reveal new areas of interest or hidden strengths. The author highlights examples of people discovering new passions this way.

Overall, the essay emphasizes the value of experiential learning to uncover your “extreme self.” New activities and experiences, even ones you don’t initially plan,can reveal talents and interests you didn’t know you had.

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  1. The author learned the importance of hard work and diligence from her experience playing field hockey in high school. Her coach told her she was lazy because she failed to hustle after scoring goals.

  2. The author decided to start running to improve her fitness and drive. She started slowly and built up her endurance over time, going from 5K to 10K to half marathons and eventually a full marathon.

  3. The secret to working hard for the author was finding satisfaction in hard work itself. She felt energized after achieving small goals which motivated her to strive for bigger ones. This gave her more confidence and drive.

  4. The author realized laziness was not a flaw in her nature but rather she needed to work harder to succeed. Pushing herself and seeing the progress she made felt amazingly fulfilling.

  5. The author’s takeaway is that the magic of drive comes from setting progressive goals and achieving “small wins” which build momentum and inspire you to stretch further. Finding joy in hard work and self-improvement stokes this drive.

In summary, the key lessons are the importance of hard work, setting progressive goals, achieving small wins, and finding satisfaction in the process of self-improvement - these factors together can “ignite your magic drive” to succeed.

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  1. Drive and creativity increase when workers make progress toward manageable goals, rather than seeking external rewards like bonuses. Regular “small wins” give a sense of achievement and mastery that sustains motivation.

  2. The author argues that “everyone’s a winner” culture undermines drive. Kids given trophies for participation, rather than achievement, lose motivation and fail to develop grit. This leads to entitlement and risk aversion in adults.

  3. Drive requires challenging ourselves by setting goals beyond what seems possible at first. Setting bigger and bigger goals strengthens determination over time.

  4. The example of Janet Shamlian shows how drive grows in stages, and can fade when momentum is lost. She achieved her dream of becoming a national TV correspondent only after becoming a mother and “throwing in the towel” on her career for a time.

In summary, the key message is that true drive comes from seeking progress toward meaningful goals that challenge us, not from external rewards. Regular “small wins” foster grit that compounds over time, while participation trophies undermine motivation.

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  • Janet had a dream of becoming a TV reporter since childhood. She started her career in local news but then had 5 kids in 7 years, forcing her to give up her TV career.

  • After years of raising her kids and watching TV news shows, her desire to become a national correspondent grew stronger. She was determined to relaunch her TV career despite many obstacles.

  • With perseverance, networking, and working freelance jobs, Janet managed to land a job with NBC as a freelance reporter. This gave her momentum and confidence to climb higher.

  • Janet took on many difficult assignments, traveling frequently and putting her career first. This improved her skills and work ethic, gaining her recognition from NBC.

  • NBC eventually offered Janet a staff position based in Chicago, requiring her to commute from Houston. Though difficult, Janet pursued it passionately due to her drive to achieve her dreams.

  • After a year of commuting, NBC allowed Janet to work from Houston, closer to her family. Her drive and hard work helped make this possible.

  • While goal-setting and discipline are important, Angela Duckworth notes that the goals must truly matter to you in order to fuel passion and motivation over the long term. Janet’s lifelong dream of becoming a TV reporter powered her drive.

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  1. The author argues that one of the biggest misconceptions about grit is that it’s only about discipline. Many parents and teachers wrongly think grit is just about making kids work hard, without considering what the kids actually enjoy.

  2. True grit involves finding something you love and are passionate about, and then putting in hard work to achieve your goals in that area. It’s not just about forcing yourself to work hard at random tasks.

  3. Angela Duckworth, an expert on grit, exemplifies this. She started in a conventional career but switched to teaching because it fit her personal interests, despite the lower status. Her deep interest drove her to work 80 hours a week to pursue her goals in education and psychology.

  4. The author stresses the importance of setting your own subjective goals, not just following others’ prescriptions. Bode Miller similarly set his own goals for skiing based on his own standards, not just trying to fit an external model.

  5. Having “harmonious passion” for your work, doing it because you find it important and not due to external pressures, is associated with greater success and motivation. This contrasts with “obsessive passion” driven by trying to avoid negative consequences.

In summary, true grit involves finding work you’re passionate about, not just forcing yourself to work hard. Setting your own subjective goals and standards, rather than blindly following others, can fuel greater motivation and drive.

The passage discusses when extremers come out of the “extreme closet” and reveal more of themselves, it can intensify their drive and motivation. This happened for the author when she pushed herself to get an interview with Air New Zealand, despite failing their aptitude test. Revealing herself and explaining why she was a good fit increased her drive to prove herself and perform well.

The passage uses Gordon Thompson’s story as an example. He had an artistic gift from a young age but his family wanted him to become a lawyer. However, he pursued design and rose to success at Nike. Coming out of the closet in this way, going against expectations, fueled his extreme self-motivation and drive.

The key point is that when extremers pursue goals that align with their authentic selves, and reveal that to the world despite potential criticism, it can intensify their drive and motivation to prove themselves worthy. This contrasts with merely trying not to be penalized or criticized by a boss, which may undermine motivation.

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The excerpt discusses what drives people to pursue extreme goals and live an extreme life. It argues that being different or facing resistance from family and society can actually fuel a person’s drive to succeed. Some key points:

  1. Extremers continue finding higher mountains to climb. They set whisker goals that provide incremental progress and motivation. Starting with a physical challenge can help fire up drive that can be applied to other life goals.

  2. Setting one’s own goals and doing things one’s own way, rather than society’s way, helps extremers achieve results. It also provides inner harmony that helps them cope with other people’s expectations.

  3. Putting one’s “balls on the line” and exposing oneself to doubt and criticism paradoxically drives extremers to go further to prove people wrong. Facing resistance stokes their fire.

In summary, the text advocates living an extreme life driven by one’s own goals, ambitions and methods. It argues that being different and facing doubt can actually fuel extremers’ drive to succeed on their own terms. Setting ever higher goals and challenges and owning one’s choices are important strategies for extremers.

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  1. When applying for new jobs, Suzanne ran into obstacles from recruiters who wanted to pigeonhole her as an “airline person.” This taught her that to breakthrough she needed to Get Out of Line - take her ambitions into her own hands.

  2. Suzanne set her sights on marketing job at Virgin Atlantic airline. She attended a marketing conference to network and meet Virgin’s head of marketing whom she hit it off with.

  3. Suzanne was offered a promotions manager job at Virgin, though it was more junior than her current role. She saw this as a chance to prove herself at a bigger airline.

  4. Getting the job was the easy part. Suzanne faced challenges as Virgin took months to get her work visa approved, during which time she had to sell her car and live on a friends couch.

  5. Getting Out of Line is not a one time fix but a way of life, as Suzanne discovered when challenges arose after landing her dream job.

The key takeaway is that talented people often face obstacles getting noticed for their full potential. But with determination and initiative, like Suzanne seeking out networking opportunities and securing a role at Virgin, one can Get Out of Line and create opportunities to showcase their skills. Though it takes persistence as new obstacles often arise after the initial breakthrough.

• The author found training for a triathlon to be an outlet for pent-up energy during a career downtime period while waiting for a visa application to be approved. The triathlon training helped maintain the author’s drive and confidence.

• On the author’s first day at the new job, she discovered that the marketing head who had hired her had recently left the company. The author was upset but channeled her rage into motivation to insist the company recognize her potential.

• The author found that the marketing department lacked an overall strategy and vision. While initially hesitant to speak up as a newcomer, the author felt a growing voice inside saying the department could be more successful with a clear plan and road map.

• Over the course of a month, the author wrote up a complete marketing plan and organizational structure for the marketing department during weekends and morning runs. This Get Out of Line thinking and effort went against being patient and waiting to be told what to do.

The key themes are the author’s drive and impatience that pushed her to set physical goals, channel frustration productively, and ultimately devise a new marketing plan despite being a newcomer in a precarious position at the company. Her proactivity helped her get noticed and secure her position at the company.

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The author was excited to be promoted to director of marketing at Virgin Atlantic after sharing her strategic marketing ideas with the company president. However, she celebrates her promotion by partying too hard with fellow New Zealanders and sleeping through the important kickoff meeting with her new boss the next morning.

When she finally arrives at work, extremely late and mortified, she owns up to her mistake and tells her new boss the truth - that she slept through her alarm after partying too hard the previous night. Her boss is understandably disappointed in her lack of reliability, but rather than firing her, he gives her a chance to prove herself.

The author realizes that though her out-of-the-box thinking helped land her the promotion, she still has much to learn about reliability, priorities and earning trust. Getting out of line can be wise when done right, but it must be balanced with humility, hard work and accountability to succeed. The consequences of her partying mistake serve as an important lesson for the author going forward in her career.

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• Dan landed an excellent first job out of college at the New York Times but felt it was not what he was truly looking for.

• He then got a job at Google which seemed like a dream but the role was administrative and limiting. He felt out of his element.

• He met Jared Cohen, the director of Google ideas, who inspired him with his vision of using technology to tackle geopolitical issues.

• Though Jared had no budget or headcount, Dan volunteered to help him out with projects to prove his value, working for Jared in addition to his paying Google job.

• By demonstrating his passion and value, Dan managed to get a full-time role on Jared’s team doing the kind of work that truly interested him.

The key takeaway is that Dan chose to Get Out of Line and create his own opportunity by proactively helping Jared, despite not officially having a role on his team. This allowed him to land the role that was a better fit for his talents and interests, demonstrating how Getting Out of Line can help create the chances you want for yourself.

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  1. Getting Out of Line requires balancing two extremes - bold action while also showing respect and understanding how your move will benefit others. Arrogance and recklessness won’t work.

  2. Look for environments that encourage autonomy and support proactive moves. Scan for opportunities that others may miss and turn frustrations into chances to do more.

  3. Proper planning is essential before Getting Out of Line. Have a plan for how you will execute your ideas and show how your bold move will benefit others, not just yourself. Think strategically.

  4. Getting a meeting is worthless without a plan for that meeting. Presenting ideas is worthless without an execution plan.

  5. Brilliant planning won’t work without support from others. Gather input from stakeholders and show how your bold move will benefit them.

In summary, Getting Out of Line requires bold action balanced with careful planning, strategic thinking, and an understanding of how your move serves others’ interests and gains their support. Reckless moves driven by arrogance are unlikely to succeed.

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• The author thought she had things figured out at age 26 but was quickly humbled when she got fired from her job at Virgin Megastores.

• She realized she made a major mistake by not properly listening to and understanding her bosses’ priorities. She focused on her own big strategic vision while neglecting the practical retail tactics her bosses cared most about.

• Her thinking was egotistical - she saw her retail bosses as beneath her and didn’t take their guidance seriously. She felt intimidated by tactical retail work that wasn’t in her skill set.

• Getting fired was a wake-up call for the author, teaching her that even as an extreme person, she needs to “get over herself” and better understand and serve others, not just follow her own vision.

The key lesson is that extremeness requires balance. While having a strong vision and thinking differently can be assets, extremeness won’t succeed without also understanding others’ perspectives, listening humbly, and executing practical tactics that deliver real results for customers and stakeholders.

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  1. Living Extreme and focusing only on your strengths can become a liability if you ignore your weaknesses. Even extremely skilled individuals need a well-rounded team to succeed.

  2. Francisco Nunez’s story demonstrates this. He was an Extreme Athlete all his life but injuries forced him to give up soccer. He initially approached his new retail job with the same Extreme approach but realized he needed to develop new skills to progress.

  3. Francisco was extremely shy and introverted, which limited his potential. His strengths in being cool and in-tune with pop culture only took him so far.

  4. His bosses and mentors pushed him to communicate more effectively but he found that inauthentic at first. His friend Jesse consistently pushed him out of his comfort zone.

  5. In the end, Francisco realized his extreme traits - while once strengths - were now holding him back. He needed to develop new areas to progress in his career.

The key lesson is that while living Extreme and focusing on your strengths can help you stand out initially, to have a sustainable career you must develop awareness of your weaknesses and put in the work to compensate for them. Only then can your Extreme Self truly succeed.

• It is important for Extremers to identify their weaknesses in order to improve and achieve their full potential. Not recognizing weak areas can limit success.

• Some ways to identify weaknesses:

  • Notice areas you avoid or are reluctant to engage in; this often indicates a lack of mastery.

  • Look for patterns in feedback from others. Criticism from those who “don’t get you” may actually point to areas you could improve.

  • Get to the point quickly when explaining weaknesses. Avoid long explanations that reveal a lack of insight.

• Even after recognizing weaknesses, Extremers may struggle to change. They may cling to their strengths and past successes.

• Observing mentors and role models who have similar strengths can help Extremers understand how to productively refine their style to address weak areas.

• Extremers must get over the expectation that they have a “magic touch” that will solve everything. Developing the ability to acknowledge and meet new challenges, including ones that don’t match their strengths, is important.

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  1. Sue was fired from her dream job at Virgin Megastores in Los Angeles. This was a big failure and embarrassment for her.

  2. At first, she tried to justify herself and blamed the company. She told her former coworkers that she would sue the company.

  3. Eventually, she realized the truth - that she had screwed up and deserved to be fired.

  4. Admitting the truth to herself and others, especially her family in an email, was very difficult for Sue. But it helped her move on from the failure.

  5. Telling the truth allowed Sue to experience and process all the difficult emotions she had been trying to cover up, like shame and embarrassment. This was a turning point for her.

The key lessons are that for Extremers like Sue:

  • Painful failures are common and can be major learning opportunities

  • Admitting the truth, even when difficult, helps move past denial and rationalization

  • Processing and experiencing difficult emotions is an important part of healing from failure

  • Being honest with loved ones and friends, even though scary, allows them to truly support you

So in summary, Sue learns that for Extremers, admitting failure and truth-telling, though hard, are important steps in transforming painful failures into personal growth and development.

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•The author felt a wave of painful emotions after the failure, including disappointment, loser-like feelings, and questioning if she was meant to succeed.

•She had to fully feel the pain and failure in order to drive herself forward. Owning the failure and grieving it turned the pain into anger and determination.

•Research shows that taking responsibility for failures rather than blaming external factors turns the pain into valuable training that improves performance the next time.

•The author talks about people like Sage Steele who overcame obstacles to achieve success. Sage let the pain of her setbacks drive her forward rather than accepting them as proof of her limitations.

•After the author’s firing, she went through an “angry” phase but then entered a phase of steely determination. She calls it becoming “on a mission.” She began aggressively seeking out job opportunities.

•A friend connected the author to Alyssa Padia Walles who had a role at a video game company, which proved to be a solid job lead in the author’s quest to stay in the country.

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• The author took a job as VP of Marketing at Infogrames, a video game company, despite having little knowledge or interest in video games. She was attracted by the salary and opportunity to stay in the country on a work visa.

• She struggled in the role, facing distrust from the gaming experts on her staff. She was eventually shifted to a less prominent role focusing on rebranding the company as Atari.

• After a series of acquisitions, Atari’s business faltered and the author was fired.

• The author describes failure as extremely painful, bringing embarrassment, shame, and self-doubt. But she says fear is even worse, as it can undermine her ambition and risk-taking.

• The author discusses how her painful failure of a piano exam at age 16, where she narrowly missed passing after working hard with an injured shoulder, taught her resilience and helped her persevere after her career setbacks.

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The author describes how failures and setbacks can fuel you to overcome challenges and succeed. Some key points:

  1. Tell the truth about the failure and feel the pain. Admitting your mistakes and experiencing the emotions can motivate you to prove you can do better. Journaling about the experience can help you process it fully.

  2. Learn how to “crash”. Like Bode Miller the skier, you can learn from failures by placing yourself in challenging situations and pushing your limits. Even when you crash, you can develop skills to minimize the consequences. This makes you more willing to take risks.

  3. Crashing more does not mean failing intentionally at work. But you can push yourself out of your comfort zone, take on more difficult tasks and learn from mistakes.

  4. Developing resilience through failures builds a “reservoir” you can draw on for future challenges. You gain confidence knowing you can survive and succeed again.

The key is how you react to failure - with determination and a desire to prove the failure wrong. Writing out the experience helps you process the emotions and formulate a plan to overcome the setback.

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The author discusses how failures and setbacks can motivate you to move forward. When facing failure, you have two options: hide from it or use it as fuel to drive you on to your next goal.

The author recommends maintaining forward momentum after a failure by doing the following:

  1. Drive On: Set your sights on your next challenge and commit to achieving it. Retrenchment is the wrong response; adversity calls for change.

  2. Face Your Fears: Prepare for worst-case scenarios mentally so they won’t derail you. Imagine exactly what you fear might happen and how you could handle it. This gives you confidence and readiness.

  3. Own Your Failure: Try on the feeling of failure mentally. Remembering past failures helps you realize that you can survive and move on.

The second half of the book discusses how to turn one’s extreme personality traits into real success using the Extremer Cycle - an approach that starts when facing a new situation and feeling self-doubt, and moves through steps like “staying stubbornly humble,” “magic driving,” “getting out of line,“etc. The author shares an example of facing doubts after joining Nike and being asked about her sports achievements on an internal questionnaire.

In summary, the key takeaways are: face your failures head on, maintain forward momentum toward your next goal, prepare for potential obstacles mentally, and own your failures to build resilience and confidence. This can help lay the groundwork for turning one’s Extreme attributes into real success.

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The author felt lost and out of place when she first started working at Nike. She did not understand the company’s culture, industry terminology, or status symbols.

The author struggled in meetings where others spoke in shorthand and acronyms she did not understand. She felt worried that she might lose this job like her previous two.

However, the author resolved to prove herself. She began patiently listening and building relationships to earn credibility. She joined coworkers for meals and movies to form connections.

The author says humility was crucial to her success. She had to listen before speaking and show that she cared about what mattered to others. Her extreme personality had to be tempered by a willingness to ask for help and learn from others.

After two years, the author won an award for her team’s performance. This success came from her willingness to be humble and start from scratch at Nike.

However, the author notes that even after success, extremers like her need to keep renewing humility to continue progressing in their careers. She says the higher you go, the more you realize what you don’t know.

In summary, the author describes how humility, listening, and building relationships helped her overcome initial struggles and achieve success at Nike after feeling lost when she first started.

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The author was put in charge of an integrated marketing team at Nike that oversees various aspects of marketing, from advertising to websites.

At first, the author tried to enforce her vision for a “fitness dance” marketing campaign focused on women. However, the advertising team had a different vision that focused on using women’s athletics and body image to connect emotionally with female customers.

The author initially resisted the advertising team’s ideas and argued in favor of her own vision. This caused conflict and put the author in an awkward position in front of her team.

The author realized she needed to align with Nancy, the head of advertising, but was afraid to do so as it might make her look unqualified. However, the advertising team’s campaign ended up performing very well without any input from the author’s team.

The author apologized to Nancy and realized that as a newer executive, she discounted the value of Nancy’s experience and insight. The author needed the humility to understand others’ viewpoints and the fact that no leader can possess all the necessary expertise themselves.

The author sees that the conflict was not about who was right, but about bringing diverse viewpoints together to create the greatest success. This requires humility on the part of leaders.

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  1. Extremers need to maintain a balance between ambition and humility. While stubbornness and drive are important, flexibility and willingness to learn are also crucial for ongoing success.

  2. Zumba is a good example. Though initially successful, they found even greater success when they listened to feedback and made changes that went against their initial fitness-focused approach. They became more humble and focused on joy and transformation instead of just weight loss.

  3. Humility allows Extremers to admit what they don’t know, learn from others, and remain open to new ideas. Though uncomfortable, admitting weaknesses can gain respect and trust from others.

  4. Extremers should practice humility by:

  • Admitting what they don’t know to gain valuable input from others
  • Learning from everyone, not just those above them in the hierarchy
  • Asking for candid feedback from people they respect and admire
  • Constantly seeking out new ways they can improve and grow

In summary, while ambition and drive propel Extremers forward, humility helps keep them grounded, open, and willing to evolve their approach - enabling them to take their success to the next level.

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  1. Alli Webb had a strong drive to get out of the house and do something after being a stay-at-home mom for years. It wasn’t initially about the money.

  2. She realized she had expertise and enjoyed styling her own hair, especially straightening her curly hair. She had worked as a hairstylist in the past.

  3. She came from a family retail business where they focused on providing excellent customer service and making customers feel comfortable.

  4. Her initial idea was to go to women’s homes and blow out their hair, offering a part-time gig doing something she enjoyed.

  5. Despite having skills, expertise, and an idea, it’s not obvious how she would build a major business from this. Her success required specializing in two ways:

  • Developing her niche ability of straightening hair into a narrow, specialized method or product.
  • Finding a narrow, specialized audience that really needed and valued what she offered.
  1. When she brought her specialized offering to the specialized audience, that’s when she hit her “Specialist Game” and her business succeeded.

  2. Overall, the key was specializing her existing expertise in the right way for the right audience, not just having good skills and an idea.

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• Alli Webb wanted to start a blowout salon business that focused on women with unruly hair. She realized this would be a niche service that many women would value but did not yet exist.

• Launching a new business from scratch is risky and required Alli to convince her husband and brother to invest their life savings to fund the initial store. The pressure to succeed was intense.

• Alli realized that for her business to work, she needed to focus on a niche audience of “women like me” who needed and wanted her specialized service. She had to “crawl into the skin of her customer.”

• The author discusses the challenges of managing a team at Nike that initially did not work well together. They lacked a common passion or skill set.

• The author realized she could apply the same model of bringing together diverse skills and interests but narrowing focus for a niche audience to get her team to work well together. She worked to identify how the team’s diverse skills could serve Nike customers in a unique way.

The key lessons are about the importance of finding and serving a niche audience with a specialized offering, while drawing on diverse skills and experiences to achieve that narrow focus. This applies both for individuals and teams seeking to define their role and succeed.

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• The author was tasked with launching a local marketing campaign for Nike in Los Angeles, which was outside anyone’s usual responsibilities. This put a lot of pressure on the author.

• The author organized a brainstorming session with their team to focus their creative efforts. The author had a structured but fun approach to facilitate the session.

• Though the team was skeptical at first, they ended up having a playful and productive brainstorming session.

• They came up with the idea of staging a 10K running event with “one-hit wonder” bands playing music at each mile to motivate the runners. They named the event Run Hit Wonder.

• The shared experience of coming up with the idea together helped break down barriers between the team members and give them a sense of ownership. They combined their diverse skills and resources to create a successful event.

• The author attributes their success to both focusing their distinct skills on a narrow goal, as well as having depth in their expertise.

• The author discusses examples of individuals like Sam Kass and Alli Webb who developed depth in their areas of interest by immersing themselves in it for many hours over a long period of time.

• Mister Cartoon is presented as an example of someone who mastered a wide range of art forms by going deep in each, developing specialized skills and finding commercial audiences for his talents.

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  1. Playing a specialist game means finding a niche skill or specialty and focusing deeply on serving a specialized audience. It requires narrowing your offerings to perfectly match the needs of your target customers.

  2. You can start playing a specialist game by developing extreme skills and knowledge, focusing on a personal obsession, or getting to know an audience you want to serve. The key is getting focused at some point.

  3. Companies need to find their core specialty and focus relentlessly on it to grow from millions to billions in size. This helps cut through competitive clutter.

  4. When playing a specialist game, you have to learn to say “no” in 4 ways: no to everyone except your specialized audience, no to being average for many instead of spectacular for few, no to opportunities that don’t align with your focus, and no to diversifying too much.

  5. Saying the right “no’s” helps you build deep relationships with your specialized audience based on a unique fit between your offering and their needs that couldn’t have been predicted in advance.

  6. It’s better to be number one in a seemingly small niche than number four in a big market, because as number one, people will listen to you.

  7. Focus on a niche market to start. Build expertise with that specific group before going after the mainstream. This lets you develop truly valuable skills and insights for that group.

  8. Learn to say no. Successful people have to say no to most opportunities in order to stay focused on what matters. Consider giving alternative referrals instead of an outright no.

  9. Play the long game. Saying no to short-term gains in favor of building a specialized position takes discipline, but it pays off over time.

  10. Streamline your commitments. Cut out distractions like excessive socializing and multitasking. Focus and discipline are crucial for success.

  11. Even though you start niche, aim big. Narrow focus helps you succeed on the largest scale. Once you master a specialty, you can change the game in your field.

The key is to develop your skills within a niche, gain expertise, and build opportunities over time. Stay open to where your potential may ultimately lead, which could be in unexpected directions. Focus first, then scale up once you’ve gained a specialized position.

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• The author was approached by a recruiting firm about the opportunity to revive Gatorade, the iconic sports drink brand owned by PepsiCo. The initial appeal was the chance to lead the transformation of a well-known brand.

• Though the PepsiCo culture did not seem like a good fit, the author was intrigued by the chance to express her “Extreme Self” and prove herself as a leader. This opportunity allowed her to take full responsibility for reinventing an iconic brand.

• The author hit it off with Massimo D’Amore, the CEO who sought the “best sports marketer on the planet” to run Gatorade. He convinced her that this role would present far more challenges than her current job at Nike.

• The author saw this as a chance to prove she was capable of leading great business success, rather than just being “a loyal deckhand” at Nike. Gatorade needed someone to reconnect the brand with real athletes.

• Despite being excited by the opportunity, the author was also sad to leave her “dream job” at Nike where she felt part of a team.

• Once at PepsiCo, the author realized marketing at the company was very different and focused on mass appeal rather than a specialized audience. Gatorade also faced challenges from the economic downturn.

• The author felt Gatorade needed a fresher look and to engage more with younger athletes through digital channels, rather than just TV ads.

• The author is brought on to revamp the Gatorade brand which was doing poorly. She pushes for a risky new rebranding called “G” with a teaser campaign to build mystery.

• Despite internal skepticism, the CEO supports the new campaign. The author and team work hard to get the rebrand ready in just 3 months.

• The rebrand launches on January 1st to some initial positive buzz but sales decline significantly due to the poor economy and retailer confusion.

• The author is on maternity leave but works hard remotely to address the issues. Their Super Bowl ad is scrapped due to concerns. Sales continue to drop.

• The author is exhausted physically and emotionally but takes a month off on her husband’s insistence.

• Upon returning, there is pressure to revert to the old Gatorade branding. The author believes fully reverting would be a mistake but realizes the new campaign alone is not enough due to the poor economy.

• Research shows the rebrand successfully revitalized their relationship with young athletes, though that was not enough to compensate for the economic headwinds.

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  • The author was tasked with turning around Gatorade’s lost sales. The traditional beverage strategy was not working.

  • The author wrote a “Jerry Maguire” manifesto outlining his new athlete-focused strategy. He told his boss Massimo that he was willing to accept poor sales in 2009 if they could build a sustainable strategy.

  • Massimo supported the author’s new strategy and they formed a partnership. Innovation meetings focused on athletes’ needs before, during and after exercise.

  • The author assembled a team of specialist “athletically savvy” people. They realized Gatorade could innovate beyond sports drinks to provide full sports nutrition.

  • In 2010, they launched the G Series line of products. Although sales were still down initially, the products and marketing eventually turned sales around.

  • The market for sports nutrition was bigger than sports drinks, giving Gatorade more room to grow. Sales increased by over $1 billion from 2009 to 2015.

  • By changing the game to focus on athletes’ needs, Gatorade was able to create “blue ocean” growth rather than competing in the “red ocean” of sports drinks.

So in summary, the author explains how shifting Gatorade’s strategy from a sports drink company to an athletic nutrition specialist unlocked sustainable growth for the brand.

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• The passage argues that the approach of becoming a specialist in something and then using that expertise to change the game applies to both business and personal reinvention.

• The example of Gatorade expanding from sports drinks into other performance products is used to illustrate how a business can go big by identifying new needs of its audience.

• The story of Mary O’Hagan shows how this approach can work for personal reinvention. Mary suffered from severe mental health issues but was able to transform her situation by taking an active role in her own treatment and recovery.

• Mary developed a new narrative and approach for herself based on a “parable” she formulated during a low period. This empowered her to see herself as an active agent in shaping her future, not just a passive patient.

• Mary’s rebellious nature, support from others who believed in her, and her “well of hope” helped her question the conventional wisdom that her condition meant a limited life and pushed her to create a different outcome for herself.

So in summary, the key lesson is that by developing expertise in something and then applying that “specialist” skill set and mindset in an innovative way, individuals and businesses can transform their situations and change the game for their audience.

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  1. Boz Saint John’s career success came from following her passion and doing work that she loved, not from ambition alone. She chose jobs and projects based on how they made her feel, not just the title or salary.

  2. She initially worked in a recruiting company to support herself while exploring New York’s art and pop culture scene. Though she didn’t love the work, she was successful and was offered a promotion.

  3. However, she left for a job at Spike DDB that gave her a chance to combine her passion for pop culture with business. Though it meant taking a pay cut, she chose it because she “wanted to prove you could use the love of pop culture to drive business.”

  4. Boz was then recruited by PepsiCo but eventually left, feeling her contributions were not fully appreciated and that her management did not allow her to play to her specialized strengths.

  5. She took a position in fashion marketing but found her pop culture expertise did not translate well to that industry. She then returned to PepsiCo when the company became more open to specialized approaches.

  6. At Mountain Dew, Boz’s team reframed the brand’s target consumer from “aggressive” white males to reflect the hip-hop music culture that young men of all backgrounds enjoyed.

The key takeaway is that Boz followed her passion for pop culture and street culture, choosing jobs that allowed her to fully use her specialized skills and make meaningful contributions. When companies did not allow that, she moved on until she found the right fit at PepsiCo. Her success came from loving the work she did, rather than purely ambition.

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The story describes Liz Miersch’s career journey. Liz was a fitness editor at Self magazine.

Her careercombined her passions for writing, health and fitness. However, Liz realized that both journalism and the fitness industry were being disrupted by digital media and new fitness startups.

This presented both challenges and opportunities for Liz. Though her job and industry were changing, Liz saw an opportunity to become a change agent in these new fields.

Liz made a career change by joining luxury fitness company Equinox. Though Equinox operated gyms instead of magazines, Liz had a clear vision of how she could create editorial content to support the brand.

Liz recognized an opportunity to create something new and inspiring that would combine Equinox’s scientific knowledge with her editorial style. This would position Equinox as an authority in the space.

In just 9 months at Equinox, Liz launched “Q by Equinox”, a blog featuring high quality fitness articles and content.

In summary, Liz faced disruptive changes in her industry but saw that as an opportunity to become an agent of change. She made a bold career move and used her skills and vision to launch a new editorial project that benefited Equinox.

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The text discusses an employee named Liz who started a blog called Q to generate fitness and lifestyle content for her employer, Equinox. Liz enlisted the help of many coworkers to generate stories and videos for the blog.

One of Q’s first major successes was a provocative yoga video called “The Contortionist” that went viral. However, the Q blog was still only a small part of the larger Equinox company.

The author took a leadership role at Equinox and saw Liz’s dream of expanding Q into a standalone digital magazine as an opportunity to help her “go bigger.” The author believed they could leverage the specialist knowledge within Equinox to create an entirely new game instead of copying competitors.

The author saw Liz’s concerns about not having the business skills needed to scale the idea. The author felt his role was to support and guide Liz to find the right team to complement her and make the dream a reality. The author calls this type of leadership “imagination leadership.”

The key points are:

  • Liz started a blog called Q within Equinox to generate fitness content.

  • One of Q’s videos went viral and proved they could create impactful content.

  • The author took a leadership role at Equinox and saw Liz’s dream of expanding Q as an opportunity.

  • The author believed they could leverage Equinox’s specialist knowledge to create something new and different.

  • The author’s role was to support and guide Liz in finding the right team to complement her skills and make the dream possible. The author calls this “imagination leadership.”

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  1. Extremers need leaders who encourage imagination, tolerate failure, and help unleash their talents. It takes collaboration between leaders and followers to go Extreme.

  2. Leaders need to imagine how their company could achieve big change and how followers could contribute beyond their job descriptions. Followers need to imagine solutions to unmet needs.

  3. Even followers can exercise imagination leadership with a bold vision and practical plan, enlisting people to help spread the word.

  4. Leaders achieve the most success when they bring out the Extreme in others. Beto and Alberto of Zumba realized this when finding new master teachers and executives.

  5. They learned followers who truly cared about the students and brand, not just money, succeeded. They shifted to hiring people who shared Zumba’s purpose and vision.

  6. Beto and Alberto modeled Zumba’s approach to inspire their team and show teachers they valued them. They realized company culture is important for people to fit and succeed in the company.

In summary, the key to success for both leaders and followers is using imagination to envision big changes and unmet needs, and collaboration to unleash each other’s talents and go Extreme. But leaders achieve the most by bringing out the Extreme in their followers.

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  1. Extreme leadership requires both leaders and followers to bring out the best in each other through mutual support and inspiration. It’s a symbiotic relationship where both sides benefit.

  2. Equal partnerships between peers can also provide Extreme mutual support, inspiration and accountability to achieve ambitious goals. Close friends, mentors and family members can push each other to be their best selves.

  3. Sarah credits her success to the support and belief of Liam, her life partner. Liam took on the role of lead parent so Sarah could focus on her career, allowing her to pursue Extreme opportunities.

  4. The passage argues that Extreme mutual support and inspiration between leaders and followers, or among equal partners, is what enables true imagination leadership. One cannot succeed without the other.

In summary, the key themes are the importance of:

  • Mutual support and inspiration between leaders and followers
  • Equal partnerships that provide accountability and push each other to achieve ambitions
  • Having supporters who believe in you and enable you to pursue Extreme opportunities
  • Extreme mutual support between leaders and followers being the foundation of true imagination leadership

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  1. For families to thrive, both parents must value caregiving work equally to conventional work. Society needs to value caregiving more.

  2. To lead, you must imagine a better future and share that vision to enlist others. Start small and build momentum.

  3. As a follower, step up and take initiative without being asked. Don’t wait to be told what to do.

  4. As a leader, push people hard but support them even harder. Let them do the job in their own way.

  5. Pick mentors who will tell you the truth and support you relentlessly. They form your “pit crew.”

  6. After success, there is no finish line. Reaching one goal reveals new mountains to climb. You must keep pushing yourself to break through to the next level.

The key takeaway is that to bring out the best in others and achieve extraordinary results, leaders must combine high demands with high support. They must push people hard while protecting and nurturing them to find their own Extreme way.

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  1. The author uses Condoleezza Rice’s story as an example of how breaking yourself down and starting over can lead to new growth and success. Rice switched from being a piano major to political science in college after realizing she would never be good enough to play Carnegie Hall. That moment of giving up her initial dreams was painful but allowed her to find her true calling in international politics.

  2. The author talks about how she broke out of her fitness routine of running 5 miles a day by working with a personal trainer at Equinox. Though the new training was painful at first, it helped release more potential and improve her fitness and health.

  3. Research shows that the brain will improve with training but only when given a serious challenge. Once a task is mastered, activity declines, so constant transition to new challenges is needed for cognitive growth. The constant state of “slight discomfort” drives improvement.

  4. The author discusses her friend Amrita who started her career later in life by pursuing her dream of being a singer and musician. This required guts and resilience on Amrita’s part to break out of her previous career path and start over.

The overall message is that breaking yourself down, pushing through discomfort, and starting over can lead to new growth, potential, and extreme success if you have the resilience to see it through.

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• Amrita had a natural singing talent as a child but didn’t know how to build a music career. She focused on academic success instead due to her strict immigrant parents and bullying she experienced.

• She got a degree in finance and worked on Wall Street but ultimately realized money was not her main passion. She moved to LA to work in the entertainment industry helping manage celebrity brands.

• After having kids, Amrita fell into a depression and realized she needed to pursue her artistic passions to inspire her children. She started singing again and practicing daily.

• Amrita auditioned and was chosen to sing at the Oscars for the Slumdog Millionaire soundtrack. The performance reignited her singing career but she struggled to change her path in life.

• Amrita realized she needed to make big changes to pursue music full time, including quitting her job. With support from her husband, she started collaborating with major music producers like Timbaland which helped launch her musical career.

• Amrita ultimately understood that she needed to pursue her passion for music, even if it was not immediately successful, in order to truly change her life path. With the resources and support system she now had, she was able to finally turn her singing talent into a career.

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Amrita Sen had artistic gifts but initially pursued a practical career in business. When her Oscar performance reignited her artistic passions, she realized she needed to break free from her old self.

Ravi encouraged Amrita to create characters based on her Indian artistic style like Gwen Stefani’s Harajuku Girls. Amrita saw this as an achievable first step. She used her business and technical skills to develop the BollyDoll brand.

Amrita eventually moved away from BollyDoll and rebranded under her own name. While her income decreased, she felt more fulfilled pursuing her artistic vision. Combining her previously perceived “handicaps” allowed her to live more fully as herself.

For Extremers, breaking themselves is part of an “Extremer Cycle” of success, plateau, new beginning, and new success. They must continuously start over and be humble learners to combine elements in new ways.

Mister Cartoon also followed this cycle, continually breaking himself down to learn new artistic trades and then combining them in new forms. Even though accustomed to “kicking ass,” he had to endure being “messy and humble”.

The hardest part is walking away from success into uncertainty. Angela Ahrendts went through this struggle with each career transition, questioning herself before ultimately making the leap.

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• The author took almost a year to accept a job offer at Liz Claiborne which ended up being one of the best moves they ever made. They learned a lot about leadership there.

• When the opportunity initially came, the author’s intuitive side said no because they were comfortable at Donna Karan. But the more analytical side realized it was a great opportunity.

• The author’s mother has Alzheimer’s and is now living in a nursing home. The author’s mother began a new career and pursued higher education later in life, which inspired the author.

• The author was hoping Equinox would be a new exciting challenge and long term opportunity. But within a few years, the author realized they were unlikely to reach their full potential there.

• Visiting their mother in the nursing home was a wake up call, making the author realize life is short and they should not settle.

• The author decided that if they could let go of the comfort and vision they had for themselves at Equinox, new opportunities would reveal themselves.

• Writing this book began to seem like a chance for the author to lead positive change, not just a side project.

The key themes are: taking risks and making difficult career changes can open up amazing opportunities; relying too much on intuition can cause you to miss out; and letting go of comfort and preconceived visions can reveal new paths forward. The author’s mother serves as an inspiring example of breaking yourself later in life to pursue new passions.

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  1. Breaking yourself down and starting over can be scary and risky, but it’s necessary to avoid becoming obsolete. Extremers embrace the opportunity to learn new things.

  2. Rethink your stubborn beliefs. Be willing to try things you thought you’d never do. Embrace skills that “weren’t you” in the past.

  3. Let go of comfort and safety. Sacrifice what’s familiar to unleash new potential. Though it’s scary, you’ll gain more than you lose.

  4. When starting over, you’ll be by yourself at first. Have faith that the pieces will come together in time.

The overall message is that to develop Extreme You and bring out your full potential, you need to be willing to break yourself down, become a beginner again, and face discomfort and uncertainty. Though it hurts at first, staying stuck prevents new growth. So make the leap, let go of the past, and see where this next phase of your journey takes you.

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The author’s initial idea for Extreme YOU focused more on starting a cultural movement than making money. Many people she spoke to assumed it would be a tech startup and wanted to help secure funding, which caused her some doubt.

With help from her partner Woodie and her friend Lauren, the author brainstormed Extreme YOU content ideas like podcasts, events, and training programs. Her husband Liam also built a basic website. She wanted to help people who lack opportunities.

After writing the book, the author got offered a job as CEO of a fitness company called Flywheel Sports. At first she was hesitant but an investor persuaded her to consider it. She realized the opportunity aligned with her Extreme YOU ideas and specialized skills, so she took the role.

In the acknowledgments, the author thanks many people who helped her throughout the process of writing the book and developing the Extreme YOU concept. This includes her writing partner Woodie, agent Carol Franco, editor Hollis Heimbouch, research team Sara and Gretchen, friend Lauren, and others who provided input, advice, and design work. She mentions how reliant she was on others to make the project a success.

In summary, the extract outlines the author’s initial vision for Extreme YOU as a cultural movement rather than a business, describes how she brainstormed content ideas with help from others, and explains how a job offer from Flywheel Sports aligned with her vision and skills so she ultimately took that role while still pursuing Extreme YOU. The acknowledgments highlight how many people contributed to the book and concept.

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• The author thanks Nilofer Merchant for “kicking their ass many years ago” and encouraging them to write a book.

• They express gratitude to their “Extreme team” - a group of collaborators and supporters who contributed to the book. They highlight the team members’ willingness to share their stories and insights to help others grow.

• The author thanks their family - parents, sisters, and adopted family - for their guidance, support, and pushing them to achieve more. They credit their family with teaching them values that shaped their success.

• Several mentors are mentioned who provided counsel, advice, and belief in the author at important stages in their career. Their guidance and support helped propel the author forward.

• The author expresses gratitude to teams they have worked with at various organizations, highlighting specific individuals who gave them breaks, hired them, or supported them during tough times.

In summary, the central theme is one of gratitude - the author thanking the many individuals who influenced, guided, inspired and supported them on their “Extreme” path of growth and success. Family, mentors, collaborators and colleagues are all recognized for playing a role in shaping the author and helping them along the way.

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•Success is often random and unpredictable. We have to learn to embrace serendipity and take advantage of opportunities that come our way.

•Having a “Magic Drive,” fueled by small wins and harmonious passion, is more effective than external incentives. Set whisker goals to build momentum.

•Being proactive and getting out of line can help you stand out, but there is an “initiative paradox” where overly proactive people are viewed negatively. Moderation is key.

•We need to get over ourselves and identify our weaknesses to truly grow. Focusing only on strengths has limitations.

•Pain training through practices like journaling can build resilience and make us ready to face challenges. Retrenchment is the wrong response to setbacks.

•Staying stubbornly humble and admitting what you don’t know makes you a more inclusive and consistent leader. Inconsistency can be surprisingly persuasive.

•Playing your “Specialist Game” by crawling into other people’s skins and walking in their shoes allows you to connect, influence and motivate others in a genuine way.

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The key points of this summary are:

  1. To become an Extremer, you need to regularly check yourself out by trying new things and acquiring new skills. This will help you stay open to new experiences and opportunities.

  2. Committing fully to new challenges is an important step to becoming an Extremer. You have to be willing to put it all on the line and go all in.

  3. Extreme Moves like not waiting for proof, finding Extreme Mates, and scanning for opportunities can help propel you into the Extremer Cycle of self-reinvention and personal growth.

  4. Becoming good at saying no, looking awkward, and admitting what you don’t know can help you stay stubbornly humble as an Extremer.

  5. Facing failure and feeling the pain early on builds resilience and helps you learn to drive on after setbacks as an Extremer.

  6. Becoming an Extremer often involves breaking yourself open to make yourself anew. You have to be willing to rethink stubborn beliefs, refuse to become obsolete, and let go of the past.

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The book has many themes. Choosing a summary focuses the book. Here are the key themes:

  1. Magic Drive: Developing an extreme drive to achieve your goals. This includes cultivating grit, finding intrinsic motivation, and learning from failure.

  2. Getting Over Yourself: Improving self-knowledge through checking yourself out, identifying weaknesses, and dropping your ego. This helps you achieve more with less resistance.

  3. Getting Out of Line: Taking risks, going against the crowd, and cultivating the courage to innovate. This leads to personal growth and opportunity.

  4. Extreme Support: Building a community of supporters who encourage your extreme goals. This lifts you up and provides candid feedback.

  5. Changing the Game: Leading change through imagination leadership, forgetting the competition, and inspiring extreme performance in others. This transforms industries and cultures.

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